Oh, man, no kidding. You should check out the Empaths Alike tribe...you might fit in there if you aren't there already.

It is particularly hard to differentiate when someone is projecting on you their own faults or worse - fears. If you are like me, you then go through the whole "Is it me?" "Could it be me" and the like ad nauseam.

One thing that, after (as I like to say) $4 million dollars worth of therapy, I have gained is the knowledge that blaming myself or taking on the blame/responsibility for something gives me the illusion of control over it. For instance, I grew up in a really screwed up family. In order to deal with it, I made all the dysfunction my fault and if I could only be good enough, things would be better. Well, the sad truth is that I never could be good enough...and almost nailed myself to a cross (quite literally) in the process. But you see, if I were responsible, I had some control over it and I wasn't really subject to the randomness of the universe.

Hope that makes some kind of sense.

D.