I have learned there is more to love and loving a person than holding them so close they are not able to grow in their own right. I also am a believer that two people can grow together when there is a connection that is filled with energy, love, compassion, trust, truth and all that lovely bliss... It is just so important to allow yourself and your partner to take time to heal, grow, JUST BE.
Looking back on past loves and relationships in general this is something that is new to me, and oh so beautiful. I used to feel hurt if a lover, friend or anyone asked for space to be...even if it had nothing to do with me. It is an egotistical outlook to think another person's desire for time has to do with you. Sometimes we all need time to think, process and gain a better understanding of who we are and what we wish for. This is in itself a gift we can give to others~being true to who we are.
Ahhhh...lessons are so gravy.
Looking back on past loves and relationships in general this is something that is new to me, and oh so beautiful. I used to feel hurt if a lover, friend or anyone asked for space to be...even if it had nothing to do with me. It is an egotistical outlook to think another person's desire for time has to do with you. Sometimes we all need time to think, process and gain a better understanding of who we are and what we wish for. This is in itself a gift we can give to others~being true to who we are.
Ahhhh...lessons are so gravy.
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Re: Remember there is more to love than...
Thu, January 27, 2005 - 7:13 PMIndeed...
I have been on both sides of that fence. Balance is the simplest concept but it so damn out of my reach at times. Also, we get so attached to our relationships and our partners. We allow ourselves to consrtruct our own state of being around the conditions of the relationship and the person we are sharing it with. This can be a good thing but it can also get in the way of healthy development. It's nice to see that you have given it some thought. I'm sure these thoughts will pay off in your future adventures.
Enjoy yourself Kimberlee. I'll talk to you later...
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Re: Remember there is more to love than...
Sat, January 29, 2005 - 10:19 PMOh yes. There is something to say about being able to have a sense of personal growth, healthy development when you are intertwined in another persons life. Everything can meld and get all cluster fucked. Space is beautiful. So is open and honest communication.
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Re: Remember there is more to love than...
Mon, February 7, 2005 - 2:04 AMmmmmm..... gravy....
